When is the right time to tell a date that I’m divorced?
I got divorced young (23) and I’m curious how/when to discuss the issue with future dates. I feel that it’s going to be a huge issue to women in my age range and possibly a deal breaker, seeing as how uncommon it must be to encounter a divorcee my age. I would hate for my past relationship (which ended as a result of my ex’s infidelity) to overshadow all the positive qualities about myself.
Thanks for any help!
Sorry, I forgot to state that I’m still 23.
You didnt state your current age, but it wont make a diff. It shouldnt make a diff to women, and if it does, then that’s good; because it means you are with the WRONG girl. See?
So I would put it on your profile, so that a girl knows "up front". That way if she is interested in a guy that has never been married, in theory, she will be moving on to the NEXT profile. In today’s dating world though, there are a LOT of young women who are desperate and still dont know what they want. At your young age, you WILL encounter this, that’s a definite. Also, I can tell you as a tip that if a girl asks, just simply give her a ONE liner answer: "my ex cheated on me. " and leave it at that. Girls WILL want to know more, and WILL push for answers, not for any reasons except to be geneuinely concerned, a little nosy, and to try to win you over. You’d be smart to stop them and politely say, "I’d rather talk about something else.." Then smile, and change the subject.
Good luck. Sorry you had to go through that at a young age; not all of us women are like her. We are strong, have our sh^t together, and know what we want. If you were only closer to my age…. 
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I wouldn’t worry about it too much. I’m in my thirties and its uncommon to find a man who ISN’T divorced, and it certainly isn’t a deal breaker. People make mistakes, and everyone out there has baggage. The time to bring it up is when exes come up, as they inevitably do in relationships. Just mention that you got married young and ended up divorced. A large percentage of young marriages wind up in divorce court, so you have plenty of company. An alternate suggestion is to find dates online. Simply post that you’re divorced in the relationship status part of your profile. Women that have a problem with that won’t go out with you to begin with, and women that do date you already know, so there’s no awkward conversations.
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You didnt state your current age, but it wont make a diff. It shouldnt make a diff to women, and if it does, then that’s good; because it means you are with the WRONG girl. See?
So I would put it on your profile, so that a girl knows "up front". That way if she is interested in a guy that has never been married, in theory, she will be moving on to the NEXT profile. In today’s dating world though, there are a LOT of young women who are desperate and still dont know what they want. At your young age, you WILL encounter this, that’s a definite. Also, I can tell you as a tip that if a girl asks, just simply give her a ONE liner answer: "my ex cheated on me. " and leave it at that. Girls WILL want to know more, and WILL push for answers, not for any reasons except to be geneuinely concerned, a little nosy, and to try to win you over. You’d be smart to stop them and politely say, "I’d rather talk about something else.." Then smile, and change the subject.
Good luck. Sorry you had to go through that at a young age; not all of us women are like her. We are strong, have our sh^t together, and know what we want. If you were only closer to my age….
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